Who TF Am I Now:
5 Steps to Reclaiming Your Identity
After an Unplanned Cesarean
For mothers who crossed into motherhood through an unplanned or emergency cesarean, and are still sitting with the question nobody warned them about.
The things you actually needed
someone to say out loud.
Five specific things we'll move through together, and none of it sounds like "you should be grateful you're both healthy."
Why the identity disruption didn't end when the trauma response did, and what matrescence actually explains about where you are right now
The birth hierarchy: what it is, where it came from, and why it's still running in your nervous system on a loop, long after the birth itself
The silence about what your cesarean actually meant, and why naming it precisely is the first move toward any real peace with it
What self-designed ceremony has to do with your entrance into motherhood, and why mothers who've done it describe the experience as: "magic is real"
The RITE framework, a four-part structure for moving from "I failed at becoming a mother" to a grounded, unhurried sense of who you actually are
Jessica planned a home birth, the midwife, the playlist, the copal burning for 24 hours. She ended up on an operating table. As a licensed therapist, EMDR specialist, and Hakomi somatic coach who has worked in mental health in hospital emergency rooms, she knew exactly what trauma was. She processed the birth. The acute response resolved. But the "who TF am I" persisted until recently.
She went looking for a community that could hold both truths, birth is sacred, and sometimes you also need a surgeon, and found nothing. So she built it herself.
The shift is not
conceptual.
here
They come in thinking about how much they failed at becoming a mother because they needed to have a cesarean, and then they unlearn those negative beliefs and arrive at the realization that they were doing the best they could, and that they're actually so incredible.
here
They come in terrified of getting pregnant again, and then are talking about their plans to conceive within a short amount of time working together.
here
Mothers who find Jessica's work describe feeling seen for the first time in their experience, seen in a way they hadn't found anywhere else.
The question "who TF am I now"
deserves an actual answer.
Join Jessica live, every other Tuesday at 10am Pacific, and start finding it.
Save my seat, it's free
Jessica planned a home birth, the midwife, the playlist, the copal burning for 24 hours. She ended up on an operating table. As a licensed therapist, EMDR specialist, and Hakomi somatic coach who has worked in mental health in hospital emergency rooms, she knew exactly what trauma was. She processed the birth. The acute response resolved. But the "who TF am I" persisted until recently.
She went looking for a community that could hold both truths, birth is sacred, and sometimes you also need a surgeon, and found nothing. So she built it herself.
The shift is not
conceptual.
here
They come in thinking about how much they failed at becoming a mother because they needed to have a cesarean, and then they unlearn those negative beliefs and arrive at the realization that they were doing the best they could, and that they're actually so incredible.
here
They come in terrified of getting pregnant again, and then are talking about their plans to conceive within a short amount of time working together.
here
Mothers who find Jessica's work describe feeling seen for the first time in their experience, seen in a way they hadn't found anywhere else.
The question "who TF am I now"
deserves an actual answer.
Join Jessica live, every other Tuesday at 10am Pacific, and start finding it.
Save my seat, it's free