How to Finally Make Sense of
the Identity Disruption
Your Cesarean Caused
For mothers at any stage postpartum who are physically fine, have technically moved on, and still can't shake the feeling that something about becoming a mother didn't quite land.
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The things you actually needed
someone to say out loud.
Five specific things we'll move through together, and none of it sounds like "you should be grateful you're both healthy."
Why the identity disruption didn't end when the trauma response did, and what matrescence actually explains about where you are right now
The birth hierarchy: what it is, where it came from, and why it's still running in your nervous system on a loop, long after the birth itself
The silence about what your cesarean actually meant, and why naming it precisely is the first move toward any real peace with it
What self-designed ceremony has to do with your entrance into motherhood, and why mothers who've done it describe the experience as: "magic is real"
The RITE framework, a four-part structure for moving from "I failed at becoming a mother" to a grounded, unhurried sense of who you actually are
Jessica Rita
Licensed Therapist · EMDR Specialist · Hakomi Somatic Coach
Jessica planned a home birth - the midwife, the playlist, the copal burning for 24 hours. She ended up on an operating table. As a licensed therapist, EMDR specialist and Hakomi somatic coach who has worked in mental health in hospital emergency rooms, she knew exactly what trauma was. She processed the birth. The acute response resolved. But the "who TF am I" persisted until recently.
She went looking for a community that could hold both truths, birth is sacred, and sometimes you also need a surgeon, and found nothing. So she built it herself.
Jessica Rita
Licensed Therapist · EMDR Specialist · Hakomi Somatic CoachJessica planned a home birth — the midwife, the playlist, the copal burning for 24 hours. She ended up on an operating table. As a licensed therapist, EMDR specialist and Hakomi somatic coach who has worked in mental health in hospital emergency rooms, she knew exactly what trauma was. She processed the birth. The acute response resolved. But the "who TF am I" persisted until recently.
She went looking for a community that could hold both truths — birth is sacred, and sometimes you also need a surgeon — and found nothing. So she built it herself.
What this work looks like in practice.
Jessica works with mothers carrying the weight of a transition that didn't go the way they expected. Here is what moves.
They come in thinking about how much they failed at becoming a mother because they needed to have a cesarean, and then they unlearn those negative beliefs and feel so much more confident in their realizations that they were doing the best they could and that they're actually so incredible.
Jessica Rita, on the mothers she works withThey come in terrified of getting pregnant again, and then are talking about their plans to conceive within a short amount of time working together.
Jessica Rita, on the shift she witnessesMy cesarean was 5 years ago and I feel like I'm only finding my footing, which is why I've created this. I processed my birth, and the trauma response went away, but the "who TF am I" was still there until very recently.
Jessica RitaStop waiting to feel like yourself again. Start understanding who you're becoming.
Free live training with Jessica Rita, licensed therapist and EMDR specialist.
Tuesday, 25 August 2026 · 10am US PacificSave my seat, it's free
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